Thursday, June 20, 2013

throw some clothes on thursday.

well it's summer. i haven't forgotten about modesty, have you? i will admit, in the heat it's more tempting to let the shorts get shorter and the v necks get vee-er. but every time i think about why i want to wear something and it's to "show off" some body part, i remember that as believers we are called to live for the approval of christ, not the approval of others. not to mention, showing off (or pride) goes in direct opposition of the gospel which many of us so proudly proclaim with our mouths but then hide when it comes to our outfits. this verse comes to my head when i think about my closet.

philipians 2:3-4 
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

i love this verse because it calls us to such a graceful humility in laying down rights. it mirrors what Jesus did for us. a man who could have showed off his power and greatness, yet laid down his rights for the sake of others. when we realize the gift we were given, we're much more able to give that same gift away. it sounds silly to correlate closets to the gospel, but the amazing thing about God's words are that they cut through every single area of our lives. big and small.

anyway, i am loving this article, specifically speaking to men, talking about their role in the whole modesty issue. it's really great. share it with your husbands and man-friends. ok and your gal pals. we both have to own this issue. when we stop thinking about modesty as just "her deal" or just "his deal", we can see how Christ asks us to live in community and with a unifying love for the Gospel... and in turn, we care for one another. even with our outfit choices.

when i was younger i would get in trouble for something i did wrong. in the middle of it i would say, BUT andrew did such and such! and my dad would say, this isn't about him, it's about you.
i think this is the same thing happening when we point fingers at the other sex trying to place blame. God will deal with them, but right now let's let Him deal with our own hearts. let's own our own sin in this deal.

ok and have you seen this video?!
it's worth your time. it's called the evolution of the swimsuit. there's some amazing scientific evidence in what goes on in a man's brain when he sees a woman in a bikini! kind of fascinating.


her swimsuit company is called rey swimwear and it really is adorable!

i am sporting a suit from modcloth this summer and will never turn back! it really is a nod to the 50's, my favorite era and super adorable and covering.

you can read more of my thoughts about modesty by clicking here.


23 comments:

  1. i watched that video yesterday! what a brilliant gal---not to mention totally covered, yet completely stylish! Headed to modcloth now...need me a good maternity MOO MOO to wear this summer to the pool! ;)

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  2. Yes yes yes. Love it all!

    I posted her video yesterday on my blog and made a collection of 16 swimsuit options with prices + sources as a kind of resource because how many times in summers past did I say "well, there's nothing modest out there so this [bikini] will have to do". Many are under $50 too, score!

    For anyone who's interested in modest suits here's the post:

    http://montrealnest.blogspot.ca/2013/06/modest-when-its-hottest.html?m=1

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  3. i am a believer myself. i co-lead worship at my church of over 1,000 and am always very aware of how I'm presenting myself when i'm up in front of the congregation and not. but i get overheated and sunstroke very easily, so in the summer time, basically i wear as little as possible so that I don't die. (within reason, of course.) i'm pretty thin, but i have curves for sure. summer time for me is a time for me to let loose and go braless in a dress that i can get away braless in. it's not because i'm trying to get attention or because i want men to fawn over me, because i really could care less, ya know? it's for my own comfort. wearing a heavy underwired bra on a 90 degree day is just not in the cards for me haha. just some thoughts :) will you, i would never go braless in church or anything like that. haha.

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    1. regardless of wether or not you're trying to get attention by going braless and by wearing as little as possible, you will attract attention. the gospel compels us to look to lay down our own lives for each other. i have never in my life heard of someone overheating because they wore a bra.
      i love how elyse fitzpatrick puts it:
      On the other hand, perhaps we should just ignore the whole immodesty problem all together because after all, “God looks on the heart…” And our pastors and brothers will just have to learn to look only at a woman’s face.

      Rules? No rules? Is there a better way? Is it found in the gospel?

      Hebrews 4:15 informs me that my Savior has been tempted in “every respect” as I have, yet without sin. Could this possibly mean that Jesus was tempted to immodesty but didn’t sin? Because we don’t usually think in these terms about Jesus, perhaps at this juncture it might be helpful for me to define what I mean by “modesty.” Christian modesty is simply arefusal to show off out of love for God and one’s neighbor. Jesus refused to show off His power. For instance, when tempted by Satan, He refused to show off His ability to turn stones into bread or cast Himself off a high tower (Matt 4:1f). When attacked by His accusers, He “opened not His mouth” (Isa 53:7). When facing the humiliation and excruciating pain of the cross, He refrained from appealing to His Father for legions of angels who were waiting to bring Him deliverance (Matt 26:53). Jesus didn’t show off His power or authority because He loved His neighbor, His bride. Jesus was modest because He loved the church.

      Conversely, immodesty flows out of the heart of a show off. Maybe we’ve worked hard at the gym or purchased an expensive new pair of jeans. Maybe we want to prove how free we are to dress in any way we choose, no matter how scandalous. When we show-off we’re failing to love our brother (and sisters) who may be tempted to lust or covetousness or sinful imitation. Showing off is a fruit of pride and love of self. Immodesty demonstrates a cold unconcern for the church.

      The beauty of the gospel, however, is that it informs us about who we are and what Jesus has already done. While it convicts us that we’re all unloving show-offs (in some way), it also assures us that we’ve been loved and that we no longer need to show off to get other people’s approval because (here’s the best news of all!) the record of our Modest Redeemer is ours! Our identity isn’t wrapped up in the approval or envy or lust of others. Our identity is found in Christ’s life, death and resurrection. Christ is our life. He loved us and refrained from showing off so that we could be His and freed from the need to prove that we’ve got a great body or wardrobe or … because we’ve been lavished with His love instead.

      Of course, in this promiscuous culture women (and men) might need to be taught what modest attire looks like and there’s nothing wrong with doing so. It’s just that the transforming power that changes a show off into a servant doesn’t come from rules about blouses or skirts. It comes from remembering the gospel and seeking to show Him off instead. So, let’s spend this summer talking about modesty … mostly His

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  4. I watched this video yesterday and thought it was great. Later, a friend posted about it on FB and received a lot of backlash. When I shared about how important it was for me to teach my daughters about modesty starting now (meaning no bikinis no matter how cute they are on a four-year-old)my stance was called, "primitive and repressive". When the world is telling me and my daughters to let it all hang out, and giving their input as to what is considered sexy, I want my daughters to understand that there is a better way. It's for sure a matter of the heart and I want them to not only care about their clothing choices, but to also care about those around them and how their choices may affect others as well. Thanks for continuing the dialogue on your blog! :)

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    1. i love how elyse fitzpatrick puts it:
      On the other hand, perhaps we should just ignore the whole immodesty problem all together because after all, “God looks on the heart…” And our pastors and brothers will just have to learn to look only at a woman’s face.

      Rules? No rules? Is there a better way? Is it found in the gospel?

      Hebrews 4:15 informs me that my Savior has been tempted in “every respect” as I have, yet without sin. Could this possibly mean that Jesus was tempted to immodesty but didn’t sin? Because we don’t usually think in these terms about Jesus, perhaps at this juncture it might be helpful for me to define what I mean by “modesty.” Christian modesty is simply arefusal to show off out of love for God and one’s neighbor. Jesus refused to show off His power. For instance, when tempted by Satan, He refused to show off His ability to turn stones into bread or cast Himself off a high tower (Matt 4:1f). When attacked by His accusers, He “opened not His mouth” (Isa 53:7). When facing the humiliation and excruciating pain of the cross, He refrained from appealing to His Father for legions of angels who were waiting to bring Him deliverance (Matt 26:53). Jesus didn’t show off His power or authority because He loved His neighbor, His bride. Jesus was modest because He loved the church.

      Conversely, immodesty flows out of the heart of a show off. Maybe we’ve worked hard at the gym or purchased an expensive new pair of jeans. Maybe we want to prove how free we are to dress in any way we choose, no matter how scandalous. When we show-off we’re failing to love our brother (and sisters) who may be tempted to lust or covetousness or sinful imitation. Showing off is a fruit of pride and love of self. Immodesty demonstrates a cold unconcern for the church.

      The beauty of the gospel, however, is that it informs us about who we are and what Jesus has already done. While it convicts us that we’re all unloving show-offs (in some way), it also assures us that we’ve been loved and that we no longer need to show off to get other people’s approval because (here’s the best news of all!) the record of our Modest Redeemer is ours! Our identity isn’t wrapped up in the approval or envy or lust of others. Our identity is found in Christ’s life, death and resurrection. Christ is our life. He loved us and refrained from showing off so that we could be His and freed from the need to prove that we’ve got a great body or wardrobe or … because we’ve been lavished with His love instead.

      Of course, in this promiscuous culture women (and men) might need to be taught what modest attire looks like and there’s nothing wrong with doing so. It’s just that the transforming power that changes a show off into a servant doesn’t come from rules about blouses or skirts. It comes from remembering the gospel and seeking to show Him off instead. So, let’s spend this summer talking about modesty … mostly His

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  5. I was just thinking this today! I work at a college and someone walked in with the shortest shirt ever. I thought, "Yup, its summer." I live in a vacation area so I think it makes most people think they have a free pass to look scandalous. I love the swim suit links, I LOVE the 50's style swim suits as well! Thanks for sharing!

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  6. AWESOME video! i never understood why women think it's ok to basically wear bra and underwear while swimming - in the water - so, wet underwear, even worse! here in cambodia, women swim in t-shirts and shorts and are embarrassed to wear even one-piece swimsuits. i love how she says modesty reveals our dignity. great post!

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  7. I followed your link to your modcloth suit awhile back and my mom bought me one in green. i LOVE it.

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  8. I just watched that video the other day - SO GOOD.

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  9. Thank you for sharing this, it is really encouraging to hear proponents for modesty! I remember training before an overseas mission trip and hearing a woman speak to us ladies on the subject of modesty. It helped me to become aware of the stumbling block we can be to our brothers in Christ (teammates on the trip, that we would be living in close proximity to...). It was the beginning of consciousness that it wasn't just about how I felt wearing something, but whether it was honoring to God and others.

    Recently when this subject came up with another lady, I got some blank stares and crickets...

    So, thanks for your voice on this!

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  10. Saw this bikini clip and loved it. Makes so much sense when we stop to think about it. Also, just heard this; http://www.epiphanyfellowship.org/resources/sermon
    and thought of your series on modesty :) GOOD WORD.

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  11. WOW! that video was incredibly powerful. thank you for sharing.

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  12. Thanks for sharing that video, Jami. It was really interesting and I applaud her for what she's doing.
    "Modesty isn't about covering up our bodies because they're bad; its about revealing our dignity." Love that phrase.

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  13. That video didn't sit quite right with me. I ran into this blog and I thought it hit the nail on the head. Would be curious on your thoughts =)

    http://www.qideas.org/blog/modesty-i-dont-think-it-means-what-you-think-it-means.aspx

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  14. There was something that didn't sit quite right with me after I watched the video. Ran into this blog and I think it hit the nail on the head. Would be curious to know your thoughts.

    Modesty: http://www.qideas.org/blog/modesty-i-dont-think-it-means-what-you-think-it-means.aspx

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    1. hey there,
      thanks for throwing this out there. i would say, that for the most part i disagree with her rebuttal (and disagree with rachel helds evan's theology in general). here's the deal, that rebuttle is very human centered, flying the flag of "our rights" as women. even twisting what modesty means and doesn't mean. the gospel cuts through modesty in all areas, the heart issues and then also the actual clothes. to say that this is not talking about actual clothing is absurd! clothing just displays heart issues.
      the gospel compels us to look to the good of others and lay down our life for others rather than look to our own interests. it seems foolish, in wordly standards, but this is the way we mirror the gospel to eachother. "you are more important than me!"

      i love how elyse fitzpatrick puts it:
      On the other hand, perhaps we should just ignore the whole immodesty problem all together because after all, “God looks on the heart…” And our pastors and brothers will just have to learn to look only at a woman’s face.

      Rules? No rules? Is there a better way? Is it found in the gospel?

      Hebrews 4:15 informs me that my Savior has been tempted in “every respect” as I have, yet without sin. Could this possibly mean that Jesus was tempted to immodesty but didn’t sin? Because we don’t usually think in these terms about Jesus, perhaps at this juncture it might be helpful for me to define what I mean by “modesty.” Christian modesty is simply arefusal to show off out of love for God and one’s neighbor. Jesus refused to show off His power. For instance, when tempted by Satan, He refused to show off His ability to turn stones into bread or cast Himself off a high tower (Matt 4:1f). When attacked by His accusers, He “opened not His mouth” (Isa 53:7). When facing the humiliation and excruciating pain of the cross, He refrained from appealing to His Father for legions of angels who were waiting to bring Him deliverance (Matt 26:53). Jesus didn’t show off His power or authority because He loved His neighbor, His bride. Jesus was modest because He loved the church.

      Conversely, immodesty flows out of the heart of a show off. Maybe we’ve worked hard at the gym or purchased an expensive new pair of jeans. Maybe we want to prove how free we are to dress in any way we choose, no matter how scandalous. When we show-off we’re failing to love our brother (and sisters) who may be tempted to lust or covetousness or sinful imitation. Showing off is a fruit of pride and love of self. Immodesty demonstrates a cold unconcern for the church.

      The beauty of the gospel, however, is that it informs us about who we are and what Jesus has already done. While it convicts us that we’re all unloving show-offs (in some way), it also assures us that we’ve been loved and that we no longer need to show off to get other people’s approval because (here’s the best news of all!) the record of our Modest Redeemer is ours! Our identity isn’t wrapped up in the approval or envy or lust of others. Our identity is found in Christ’s life, death and resurrection. Christ is our life. He loved us and refrained from showing off so that we could be His and freed from the need to prove that we’ve got a great body or wardrobe or … because we’ve been lavished with His love instead.

      Of course, in this promiscuous culture women (and men) might need to be taught what modest attire looks like and there’s nothing wrong with doing so. It’s just that the transforming power that changes a show off into a servant doesn’t come from rules about blouses or skirts. It comes from remembering the gospel and seeking to show Him off instead. So, let’s spend this summer talking about modesty … mostly His.

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  15. i've been on the hunt for a good swim suit, but my hight is getting in the way. Did you modcloth suit run long?

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    1. i am 5'6 and i thought it was fine!

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  16. oh i watched this a while back and loved what this girl had to say!

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