Thursday, August 2, 2012

a letter to my sister. a new mom.

remember when my sister had a babers?

here that nugget be.

and now, a letter to my sister.

dear mags,
i bet motherhood is not what you thought it would be like.
you thought you knew what tired was. and you didn't.
you thought you knew what messy was. and you didn't.
i bet you thought you knew what hungry was. no, eating a whole chocolate cake says that you did not.




i bet you thought you knew what worry was.
now you know.
now you feel bad for all the late nights you kept mom up past your curfew. for all the times you told her you hated her. for all the times you told her, you don't understand!



she held you just like this. and stood over your crib with staring at your back to make sure it moved up and down. is she breathing?

i bet you thought this would all be different. that it would be a little easier.
but nothing worth valuing is ever that easy. nothing ever.

your job that you are doing. right now. while you're breastfeeding and reading this. feels not-so-important sometimes and monumental at the same time. i bet you think you can't do it. the not sleeping and the trying to get places on time. the trying to figure out that life is different now and and trying to prove that you are capable of motherhood even though you might wonder if you are.



but you are made to do this. and you can do this. we all felt like this when we held our first baby (and second and third...)


it will mean saying no to a lot of things. it will mean leaving some things behind. but those things you leave behind will pale in comparison to the joy you'll experience when you give up your life for a tiny human. you're learning on a deeper level what love is. this is how Jesus loved us. we have nothing to give, and YET! He still loves us. and He never gives up on us. undeserving as we are. and unable to match His love for us.


isn't it funny that you thought you knew what love was?

38 comments:

  1. Beautiful! I'm sure your sister will treasure this along with the amazing pictures!

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  2. This is precious. Like, precious. You are right - nothing worth valuing is every that easy. And oh yes, it's a peek at how God loves us. And it makes His love for us all the more amazing.

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  3. stop it. stop making me teary all the time ok? :) a wonderful letter to your sister.

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  4. Such a sweet and honest post. I am about to have my second baby and this post brought back all those feelings of being a first time Mom. It's so hard, way harder than I ever could have imagined. But then, one day you look up and you realize that you are actually doing it! You are a Mom! Tell your sister to hang in there!

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  5. I'm going to print this out and pretend like you mailed it to me. For seriously.

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  6. oh jeeze. did you cry while writing this?? i did while reading it! and i'm typically not a crier. it's beautiful and spot on accurate, jami. and those photos! they capture baby wrinkles so well! i could look at them all day!

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  7. I'm trying to eat my apple and skippy natural over here ok. Now Imma hafta get up and get me a kleenex. Sheesh.

    Beautiful workds! Beautiful pictures!!!!!

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  8. excellent work again. thanks for makin' me cry in my chex. the pictures are absolutley beautiful. and the baby is too!

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  9. I am a new mom and needed this. Thank you!

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  10. I, like your sister, am a new mom. And needed this letter.

    Thank you!

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  11. Loved this! I even had tears in my eyes as I thought back to my first & second babies being born.

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  12. So beautiful! These pictures are breathtaking, and your heart for your sister as a mom is beautiful. It is amazing how, though we give up so much as moms, we gain SO much too.

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  13. teary eyed. love it. beautiful letter. beautiful baby! oh my ovaries.

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  14. Geez you're GOOD! I remember when you were babysitting my tiny people! My eyes are sweating!

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  15. So beautiful! I'm not a mommy yet but someday I look forward to these beautiful moments!

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  16. This is beautiful Jami! Thank you so much for sharing this! The words, the images, all of it together. Incredible.

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  17. This is beautiful Jami. Thank you so much for sharing this. The words, the images... incredible.

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  18. Cuuutie pie niecey you have there. I'm having my first baby in 3 months. This was a great letter for ME to read too. Thank you! (Plus, your sis has good taste. I have the same sheets and diaper changer cover from Land of Nod.)

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  19. This might be my favorite post. And STOP giving me baby fever with those adorable pictures!!!

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  20. This might be my favorite post ever. And STOP giving me baby fever with those adorable pics.

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  21. This might be my favorite post. And STOP giving me baby fever with those adorable pictures!!!

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  22. Thanks for writing this!! :) I have an almost 3-month-old and I'm sure your sister will probably ball her eyes out when she reads this. Pictures are just precious too!! :)

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  23. This is so, so beautiful. Gorgeous baby. Gorgeous photos. And I just love the nursery.

    I've actually got an open letter to my 14 month-old on my blog today -- What is it about motherhood that makes us want to pour out our hearts?

    Thanks for sharing, Jami.

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  24. This is so beautiful. Being a mom is so beautiful and hard - and you captured it perfectly. Thank you for sharing this with us.

    (Reading this as I breastfeed my son. He is asleep until I disconnect him... then he will wake up so I read on.)

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  25. I give a big loud Amen to all of this. Especially the polka dot on polka dot action. Afreakindorable.

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  26. what an adorable little one.
    i call babies "nuggets" too!

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  27. sweetness. amen.
    and beautiful captures! darling babe and nursery!

    xo

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  28. love the letter. I should probably copy and paste and hand it out to every friend that is a new mom. Its spot on!

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  29. This little peanut and my cammie Jane have the same bedding. Love it. Great pics!!

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  30. I'm commenting late because I was just introduced to your blog. So far I have laughed at your honesty and have now cried at the beauty of your words. As a young pregnant woman, my emotions are sensitive and vulnerable to such treatment as this beautiful poem to your sister. It's not fair, these tears. This letter was so inspiring; confirming both my fears and excitements. Thank you.

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  31. as usual i think about your words long after i read them. this especially goes for this precious letter to your sister and your most recent blog on wonderful lila girl. thank you for sharing.

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  32. I am a tired momma rocking her 6 week old second born on her chest, crying as i read this post.
    You nailed it. I thought i knew...

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  33. That is the best post I ever read! Beautiful! Thank you.... (even though it wasn't for me...) It hit home hard! My baby girl is already 11 months old, but she just got her first fever and was sick for the first time... So all these words suddenly seemed like they were all for me! (and all other new moms out there!).
    <3

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