i need to find a balance. it's all about balance! we must find the balance!
you know, between being a mom or wife and being me. of spending time with my family or spending time being creative. of work and home. of this and that. fill in your balance struggle.
but i think we have the wrong concept here. and i think we're preaching to each other something that is of wordily wisdom and not the Gospel.
i would submit to you that the problem is not finding this perfect middle ground. that is something you will chase for the rest of your life and not find what you are looking for. we all want to be the perfect mom and the perfect wife, the perfect friend and the perfect professional at the same time. but that's unrealistic, is it not? and will the planets ever aline perfectly and make this so...
could it be that how do i find a balance is the wrong question?
when we should instead be asking, how can i be obedient to Christ today? or in this season of my life?
because the pendulum will always be swinging, friends. there are times when God is working more on some particular area of your life than others. there are times when you are going to be full speed, sprinting in life. and then there are times when God wants you to rest. there are times when we must zoom in on our parenting and there are times to sit and enjoy the kids. there are times when we must work intensely on our marriage and there are times when all is calm on the marriage front. there are super creative times and there are times our minds are quiet. shall i fill this post with the million other spectrums of life? no, because i would bore myself.
we know that the bible says,
For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:
(Ecclesiastes 3:1 ESV)
yet we listen to the world. strive after a balance! put your hope there!
this thought process will take your eyes off God and will disappoint you terribly.
instead, come to the Lord and submit your plans of what you thought your day/life/situation would look like in this moment and ask God how you can be obedient. better yet, admit that you don't know what you're doing and you need direction.
we tend to have a very convenient view of God when we move through our day, making plans, making decisions, doing what we prefer and then asking God to bless those things. while fitting worldly wisdom into that same prayer. bless what i've already planned to do without submitting it to you. oh and things are off in my life...i feel stressed! i need a better balance!
in contrast, the bible says, But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness...
trust in the Lord with all your heart. lean not on your own understanding. in all your ways acknowledge him and HE will make your path straight.
submitting everything we do in complete obedience. letting God dictate our lives and our path by living in submission to Him, instead of flapping around in life chasing a nonexistent "balance". if you look at a person that seems to have a balance in their life, you perhaps are viewing obedience.
there is calmness in obedience. there is freedom in obedience. there is peace in obedience. and there is JOY! because intstead of exhausting yourself chasing the world's wisdom of the "perfect balance", we look to God to tell us what our life will look like that day. and in this moment. and in these words. and when i'm interacting with my kids. and when i'm talking with my husband. and in our sex life. and in my artwork. and at my job. and when i'm driving. and so on and so on. there is no area of life untouched by the need for God's direction and wisdom.
when you submit yourself in this way, you are admitting that you are not a savior. you admit that you can't do this on your own and that you've in fact, made yourself your own God by creating your own path. when we quit hiding and hoping in seemingly good terms like "balance", we stop living in the guilt of what we think our lives should look like and instead live in the freedom of obedience and submission to Christ.
and sometimes your life will be fast and sometimes slow.
and sometimes messy and sometimes clean.
and sometimes hard and sometimes easy.
and sometimes busy and sometimes quiet.
and sometimes your floors will be clean and a lot of times they won't. just look at mine.
the world's wisdom says you must chase this magical unicorn called balance. but nowhere in the bible do we find God telling us to search for that. in fact, try and find a story where life is perfect and someone has this incredibly balanced life.
IT'S. NOT. THERE.
you find rebellion and adultery, hardship, persecution, stress, joy, struggles, heartache, redemption, all sorts of craziness, hope, questions...real life!
real EFFING life, people.
(yes, i semi cussed to make a bold statement. go with it.)
because perfect balance is an illusion that takes our eyes away from the one who supernaturally provides for our needs perfectly in each moment--when we look to him. only in obedience will you find what you're looking for. Christ is sufficient.
find your Hope in Him. and then receive peace and joy in wherever you are.
damn, that's good news.
**do i even have a really nice camera? yes, but i still use my iPhone camera.