Saturday, April 7, 2012

get out of the blogging kitchen.

the season of easter has a lot of weight for nato and i. he asked me out the first time on maundy thursday. oddly enough, we ate a bar after church. wait, what?

we were married 6 months later.

fast forward 3 years, and nato and i went to church for the first time as a family that easter...after being separated because of the affair.

timely right? all that easter signifies. life after death... beauty from tragedy...

the other week i was feeling a little low.

a little unconfident. about this blog. about sharing our story so openly. about meeting with people going through infidelity and saying hard things to them. about living honestly and openly in front of people. in real life on on the mighty interweb.

because not only is it hard to say super honest words, it's hard to hear super honest words. because with those words come embarrassment, pain, maybe conviction, maybe change. i get that. people have said things to me that i didn't want to hear, either.

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 and so comes the push back. with friends or with family. with readers.

in processing through this, i first think...are they right? should we not talk about this like we do? if people bring something to your attention. you should press in and process it. we should listen to each other without defensiveness and bring it before the Lord. imagine if we lived like this! i say this to myself as much as i say it to you.

and funny things happen when you bring thoughts and questions before the Lord.

they are combated with truth.

it's like God was saying, who do i say you are? what do i call you to do? who are you writing for? who are you trying to please? where does your confidence come from?

the answer is clear: i am writing to proclaim the power of the Gospel in my marriage. and in my heart.

i will not hide what God is doing in my marriage simply because it's not pretty and neat. it's messy and gross.

i will not stop boasting in Christ because people say i am too religious. too preachy. if proclaiming that God has saved my marriage and saved my life, then call me a preacher (get those fans out and wave them in the pews, my friends).

i will not stop telling you of our weakness because it is not us who made it strong. it is God who worked a miracle and brought us back to life. even from the worst pit i've ever known.

if we truly believed what God says about us.
if we truly believed that the Christ's blood covers us and that God sees us as perfect.
if our hope was   o n l y  in Christ.
if our identity was found in him.
if the Gospel took over our lives.

we would stop caring about our secrets and how they make us look. we would stop trying to puff ourselves up with false humility. we would stop making ourselves look like something we are not. we would stop comparing ourselves to other mothers, other bloggers, other photographers, other creatives, other anythings. we would stop judging others for their choices "we would never make".

the focus is off others and ourselves and onto God. God tell me who i am.

and when you believe what He says, it transforms your life. yes, even you who has been a christian your whole life. it will change you. and it doesn't stop changing you. ever.

so much so, that when your husband finds love somewhere else, you still believe that God is there in the mess. and that he will work sin for good. it may not look what you think it should look like...but you believe that God reined over sin on the cross. he conquered it. 
why do we forget that so easily?

praise God that my husband cheated on me.
praise God that as i stared out the window, crying and watched my husband leave, He had a better plan than me.
that through this, i finally understood my heart was dark too. 
praise God that He brought me to my knees in repentance alongside my husband, whom i was just as terrible.
praise God that my husband turned to God and came back to his family. 
my husband picked the hard road and did what most men would not do because they are cowards. 

praise God that nato says, my reputation is nothing. write. tell the world.

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(thanks instagram for the best app ever in the world. you win.)

do you think nato sits in the corner and cries when i post these things? no. he says, publish that. tell the truth. i will not stand in the way.
that is a strong man and that is a good man. and i am proud to call him my husband.

and it's all because of God. 

i am not awesome and he is not awesome. we have nothing good in us apart from God. can i make that clear. we are weak and we fail daily and hourly. 
(for instance, we ate sweets after 4 weeks of giving them up for lent. just couldn't go the next 2! how hilarious is that? Jesus died for us and made the ultimate sacrifice and we can't give up cookies.)

i will continue to boast in our weakness that God will be glorified. 

i will not stop talking about this. as long as i live. 

if you can't handle the heat, get out of the blogging kitchen. (blogging said as a cuss word)

there are plenty of other fluffy blogs to read. 
this is not one.

124 comments:

  1. jami, this is such an encouraging post. I work for a college ministry, and have gotten to talk to tons of girls who have been abused because i grew up in an emotionally and physically abusive home. It is hard sometimes even to talk about this with other believers because they are uncomfortable with brokenness, shame, pain. But time and time again i am going back to the gospel and continuing to use this story to help others and myself heal and know Jesus more fully. thanks for the encouragement! love your blog!

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  2. Thank you, thank you, thank you for being real. for real.

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  3. THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! my thoughts exactly. keep on!

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  4. Jami, such an encouraging post. my husband and i work for a college ministry, and i have gotten to talk to lots of girls about abuse experienced in their lives because of the emotional and physical abuse i endured as a child. at times it can be tempting to stop telling my story, even sometimes other believers are uncomfortable with brokenness, shame, pain...but i am seeing Jesus proclaimed boldly in my life and others lives through talking about the depths of sin, and how jesus enters into that, that He is healer and faithful to us... so encouraged by your blog!

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  5. Thank you for being honest.
    Thank you for being such a wonderful follower of Christ and reminding me just how incredible He is. While we are not of the same religion, we are of the same faith and I adore how much you share of what you believe.

    And I agree, that Nato is a good man who cares more about his faith and his family than he does his reputation.

    I'm thankful for your words and the focus they help me keep.

    Happy Easter.

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  6. I am a fairly new reader of your blog and it has quickly become a favorite of mine! And the reason I love it SO MUCH is that your ability to be genuine seeps into every post you write. You are also hilarious!! But more than anything, your enduring faith and brave honesty are what keep me reading. :) Thank you! I feel like a better person every time I read your blog, and I'm positive that I'm not the only person who feels this way.

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  7. preach it, sister. the world needs more people to tell the truth.

    fun to talk to you guys last night. even though you did make me say "he is risen indeed" about 4 times. gosh, you're so religious.

    just kidding, seriously, the Husband and I really enjoyed talking to you and Nato.

    :) kelsey

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  8. Amen. You are brave and so is Nato. And the Gospel Is real and Jesus came to save sinners. Like it or not, we are all sinners. And corrupt in every part of our being. And the Gospel is offensive. I'm thankful for your hard words of honesty. Very thankful.

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  9. Amen and praise Jesus! I read your blog because you tell the truth. Life is just not pretty all the time. I love when you point to God in the midst of the good and the bad. You are doing your job. Keep up the good work, Jami! Keep looking to God to define you and thank you for encouraging me to do the same. Blessings on your family.

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  10. Know why I read your blog? Because it's not fluffy. Because you're real. Though our circumstances are different, I can relate to what you share here because you seem like a real person. I am very tired of inauthenticity...or at least what I perceive to be inauthenticity in the Christian circles I've lived in all my life. It's so easy to think we need to put on a "church face" and only say "I'm doing great!" with a huge smile to anyone who asks. It's so easy to get caught up in saying what we think we're supposed to say, that we leave out telling the ugly truth about what's really going on and how we really feel.

    Thanks for your powerful, hope-giving honesty. It helps me. I say keep it up! :)

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  11. Amen. I love that you're honest, I love that you're real, and I love that you don't write "fluff." God gives us stories to share with the world and I'm honored to read a blog that is honoring Him with theirs... the REAL story. Not the perfectly packaged, bow-on-top version. Preach on sister. Your family is a light.

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  12. Jami, I adore you! I love your honesty, and your willingness to talk about the "gross" things. I haven't had to deal with infidelity, but if I ever know someone who is, I will send them here.
    Keep talking, lady!

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  13. Thank you Jami, for your obedience to God and for giving Him the glory... that's what our lives are all about, right? Bringing glory to Him! Amen!

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  14. Amen! Such a good post Jami! I love how you post the messy stuff because it's exactly what we've been through and community helps, whether people get it or not.

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  15. I think it is awesome/encouraging/inspiring/important that your blog is not fluffy. That's why I keep coming back. Thankyouthankyouthankyou (and your hubby) for not being afraid to let the light of the Gospel shine thru you. Amen sister (or something kind of lame like that).

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  16. Just found your blog recently. I love your writing and the honesty and how you speak to the part of me that is scared to death to tell the truth. So encouraging to my weak, weak heart. Thanks for being bold and proclaiming the gospel with your story.

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  17. Thank you for choosing not to listen to those who discourage you. I don't even know you, but I look forward to reading every time you post. The food ones are good... but the ones where you proclaim your love for God and more importantly His love for us, are my favorite. Your perspective is awesome- even if you don't believe you are. Your story has strengthened my faith. God works through you and your message to reach others.. and btw I've never dealt with infidelity in this way.. and it doesn't even matter, your story is that important.

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  18. i love your not fluffy blog and the depth you bring to the blogging world. =) write on, sister.

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  19. amen.
    thank you, jami for being real. i love your blog and i love your heart for Jesus. press on, your crown awaits! <3

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  20. Haven't ever commented before, but I've blog stalked. :) I was first introduced to your blog by my friend, Craig Short. You might go to church with him? Anyway, I really appreciate your honesty and transparency. Keep proclaiming the Gospel through your marriage. The rest of us need the reminder!

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  21. sing it sister
    i will reread this post as often as i need to so that the words stick in my head.
    who i am in Christ is ALL that i am and ALL that i will ever be.

    everything else is just fluff:)

    thanks for always picking me up when i read your blog

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  22. Jami - thank you for sharing this. You are an amazing woman of God and I come here exactly because you share the truth always. God worked a miracle through your marriage. PTL! Keep telling you story woman, keep telling it.
    Tina

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  23. I appreciate your honesty and when you preach because it serves as a reminder, for me personally.

    The other day you told your bloggers to remember to read their bibles, not just think about them and pray about them but actually read them. Thank you for the reminder, everyday.

    Keep on keepin on!

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  24. Woot!! Preach it, sister! I love your blog because I love your heart to glorify the Lord in Everything. You are inspiring just as you are and I'd get super pissy if you tried to water it down. Love you.

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  25. This could probably be my favorite post ever. You are awesome. Your husband is awesome. PTL that with his stripes we are all healed (Isaiah 53:5).

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  26. AMEN lady. Love you & this place & your honesty and your incredible story.

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  27. Happy Easter to you. Good to know that life is not always a party, but that God does wonders every day.

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  28. Even though it may make people uncomfortable, your honesty is surely blessing others in a great way. And what a good, constant reminder of the God who has brought you through so much! Because what is better than a family? Not much

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  29. THIS IS WHY I AM OBSESSED WITH YOUUUUUUUUUUUU!!! Love you SOOO much! youre the best! happy easter gorgeous friend

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  30. I haven't been following your blog for long, but I became a follower because you talk about hard stuff. I think the first blog post I read was about the greed in our hearts at Christmas, and I completely identified with it. I read plenty of fluffy blogs, but I need blogs like yours to keep me grounded and to keep my head on straight. So thanks for being honest! God's power is most obvious in our messes. :)

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  31. Your honesty is refreshing and your desire to glorify God by sharing the rough stuff is inspirational. Thank you!

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  32. i must tell you that i'm so thankful you are real. i get so tired of reading blogs where everything is perfect. my life certainly isn't! i praise God when i read your blog and how He is glorified through your situation and through your marriage. thank you for being honest...and i'm thankful that God made you funny...because you are by far one of the funniest bloggers i'ver ever read.

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  33. thank you for your honesty, jami. when you write your testimony, the power of God is released. thank you for rejoicing in your weaknesses and letting God's strength shine forth.
    I appreciate that this is not a fluffy blog :)

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  34. I LOVE this post. And if anyone has been calling you too preachy I want to beat them up.

    Not really ... just a little bit.

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  35. I love your blog and stalk it constantly, hoping that you have updated it (side note: I'm not a mom yet, so I can't even imagine how difficult it is to take the time to keep such an amazing blog in the first place!) I'm Jewish and don't believe the same things you do, but your conviction and love for God and your family keeps me coming back. You are a wonderful woman!

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  36. Girl, you wreck my blogging heart with almost every single blogging post. Thank you for boasting in the Lord. Keep it blogging up. (blogging also used as a cussword)

    But seriously, thank you for being so open. You really do wreck my heart with every post.

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  37. I read your blog because it's the only "real" one on my reader, you are so amazing. Never doubt what you are standing for and to whom you are touching. It's so powerful.. And with that is going to come some serious attacks from the enemy. Thank you for telling it like it is. I am so sick of fluff!!

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  38. Powerful stuff. Never doubt what God is doing on this blog or to whom you are touching.

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  39. Love reading your words. Love Jesus. Love your blog. You are awesome.

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  40. do you even know how your ministry encourages me?

    waving my flag high, girlfriend!

    have a blessed easter.

    because HE lives,
    xo

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  41. Thank you Jami Nato. I will tell you again that God is doing amazing things through you. And, i needed to hear this. I had two close family members totally lose it, freak out, give me their judgment because I admitted on my blog that we had had a crisis in our marriage (and I didn't even give the whole story the way you have, so beautifully!), I had struggled with depression, and we went to marriage counseling. And the Lord answered me with the same truths that He gave you. Funny how the Holy Spirit works that way isn't it? Keep on speaking the Truth, girl! He is working through you in a mighty way!

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  42. This is why I read this blog. Somebody has to be honest and show everyone that they are not alone. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Thank you for letting Christ shine through you.

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  43. please don't become a fluffy blog. barf. I have had enough of those...
    Happy Easter friend.

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  44. i love you.
    sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
    MUCH.
    you go girl.
    go get it.
    God is calls ALL OF US to do everything to bring glory and honor to his name.
    one year ago, i was suicidal.
    but because of HIM, i am a free woman, the happiest, most content i have ever been.
    Jesus' blood did that.
    AMEN.

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  45. Wow. Amen to where you are at and who you are clinging to, Jesus. Your journey, though difficult, will bring depth and strength as you remember the truth that you shared above "we have nothing good in us apart from God". And, anything good in us is God! Forgiveness and love and reconciliation are good things and God things! May God bless you and your husband.

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  46. This blog brought tears to my eyes. Thanks for declaring the goodness and power of Jesus in your marriage, relationships and life. This blog reminds me daily that the gospel is relevant 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Keep on.

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  47. this is the best post i have read in a while. preach it, sista. xoxo

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  48. I think that your blog is perfect. There are MANY readers that love your honesty! Thanks for writing. Keep it up, sista!!!! :)

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  49. Amen!
    Sometimes I think-maybe my blog would be more popular if I talked less openly about Jesus. And then I think...but then it would be POINTLESS. I too live a messy life. But its a beautiful mess because Jesus. We've never met, but know a lot of people in common. (You know the KC connection. ha) You are actually shooting one of my good friends weddings in June.
    Anyway- I'm rambling. Thanks for your boldness. blogging world needs more of it.

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  50. I love your blog and especially your honesty! Your story is such evidence of God's work in real people's lives. It is an inspiration.

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  51. Although I am old, I feel a connection to you. My daughter knew Mark in h.s., my future daughter in law is a friend of Michelle N. I have followed you but never responded because a. I'm a chicken, b. I'm old and not too relevant to your followers. Keep throwing out the hard stuff. I have some messes in my life right now and you are completely touching my heart. Thank you.

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  52. Today at church the pastor said that people asked him if he really believed the story about the resurrection. He said - I have to. I don't have anything else if this isn't true.

    That made me think of you. He makes us new and your story is a blessing.

    Also the lines you wrote about Nato being humble made me tear up a bit.

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  53. i love your blog because you talk about being a REAL christian. it shouldn't be EASY to follow the lord because if it was easy everyone would be doing it. it should be hard to folllow the lord. it should be hard to look at your life and try to live it in the best way that you can. life isn't easy. it isn't simple. and if it is you aren't living. i appreciate you talking about the hard stuff. <3

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  54. Your blog has helped me overcome the pain pornography has brought to my marriage & helped me trust in the repentence my husband is seeking. So please, keep writing.

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  55. Ok, I'll go deep here, too, given the theme of this post. I truly believe that when the things that Revelation describes in terms of end times storms and famines, the Christians will be the peculiar ones still praising God. Praise God even for the storms. Yes, indeed, praise God for all the horrible things that we must endure that bring us to a closer dependence on Him. If you want to know the mark of a Christian for me, it is the one whose heart swells with joy even when her eyes are crying out the tears. Thanks for sharing your joyfilled life and your piles of dirty laundry, Jami. You're a Christian to me, and I mean that in the sincerest of ways.

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  56. this was awesome! your transparency is why i read your blog, why it is my favorite. thank you!

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  57. Thank you! I've been following on and off and always stop myself from commenting since we've never met but...I LOVE this. Love the truth and honesty in your blogging love that it relates back to Christ and His total presence in your life.

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  58. Oh my gosh i love you Jami.
    And i love Christ and i love what he's done in your and my marriage. He is so good. Keep it honest, it's a rare thing to find anymore... I will most definitely continue to read your blog, which i love. it's real.
    Love you,
    Jenn
    Ps. Was it a little creepy how many times i said love....? maybe. but i'm keepin' it honest :)

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  59. jami, i like you. a lot. i think you're brave and i know you're helping lots of girls who are going through what you went through...DON'T STOP! please blow off the a**hole things people say...they are a**holes who speak out of their a**holes. :0) (your blog will be the first place they come to when their worlds fall apart when they find out their husbands have cheated.) i'm not a blog commenter but i just had to tell you that you're SO RIGHT...the Man of no reputation did not call us to protect ours...He identified with our weaknesses by becoming Flesh and wading through the crap with us. and that's what it seems to me that you're doing. no fluff...just the truth about crap that can be redeemed and made beautiful...again, DON'T STOP!!!

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  60. i love you and the hard stuff and Jesus. bring it, sister.

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  61. Amen. Keep preachin' it!
    My story is so similar...and today our pastor preached on Psalm 73:26. My flesh and my heart may fail, BUT GOD is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
    My version: I am in the deepest pit of my life because my husband had an affair, BUT GOD is the strength of my heart and my portion forever!! Praising him today that ours is a marriage redeemed as well.

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  62. I'm always glad you share the hard stuff. It's encouraging and motivates me to do the same.

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  63. I come from a broken marriage because my father cheated on my mother, many, many times. I never knew what a real marriage looked like. I was scared of divorce and scared of marrying a man that would cheat on me. I was never told or taught what can happen through a mighty, mighty God. Then I got married. It has been ugly and messy, but my husband and I are finding our way through God. I am amazed at what God can do in marriage, even with all out faults and failures.

    I say Amen! to your honesty and to the ugliness in your life. It needs to be spoken more. People only want the pretty side of things, not the truth. It scares them. I'll be praying for you Mrs. Jami.

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  64. I don't know you. And I don't even know how I came across your blog. But can I please tell you that I believe god led me right to it, so that I could read posts like this. Late last year my husband and I faced our darkest hour. I have found strength in your blog because of posts like this, holding onto the hope that ONLY jesus can bring to our lives, as we pick up the pieces and press hard into him, for all that we need. Thank you for being real, and being honest. Seriously. Thanks!

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  65. I don't know you. And I don't even know how I came across your blog. But can I please tell you that I believe god led me right to it, so that I could read posts like this. Late last year my husband and I faced our darkest hour. I have found strength in your blog because of posts like this, holding onto the hope that ONLY jesus can bring to our lives, as we pick up the pieces and press hard into him, for all that we need. Thank you for being real, and being honest. Seriously. Thanks!

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  66. I know you already know this but you have to keep writing this blog. It's real, it's step by step, and we need it.
    The end.

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  67. I say Preach! I applaud your bravery and authenticity. I always look forward to your posts and feel like time reading your blog is time spent with a good girlfriend.

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  68. I. LOVE. THIS. POST. If we were friends in real life, I would chest bump you and high five you. Yes, chest bump. Even if it was awkward. Because I 100% believe everything about this post.

    Side note: I'm a total lurker that has gotten so much out of your blog! I have laughed out loud, cried, winced, smiled, and shouted victory with you.

    We would DEFINITELY be friends in real life if we knew each other.

    Cheering you on, sweet blogging friend!

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  69. I started reading your blog about a year ago. I love your mix of humor with honesty. And I especially love how you write for the glory of God. Keep on... :)

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  70. there's nothin like a lady who knows HER place, my dear...that's you jami.
    you've clearly searched out your father's place for you in this world and stand in it with a willing/hilarious heart.
    you are certainly your daddy's girl.
    i'm glad to know you.

    (blogging as a cuss word...genius)

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  71. I read your blog because you keep it real. Fog (when my daughter says this is sounds like another F word, so it is now the word I use in replace of it) anyone who tries to discourage you from doing what you do well. I am struggling with some of the same things you so openly talk about and even though I also struggle with my faith, I love reading and knowing I am not the only one. Your family is beautiful; you are beautiful.

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  72. thank you. i think being radically honest is not something our society is use to or really applauds and i thank you for not conforming to that. the truth of Jesus overwhelms when we are radically honest. God is using yall and it is a beautiful thing to get to read about.

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  73. Amen Jami! Thanks for sharing your humaness. You are a great testimony!!

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  74. love your blog. love the openness and truth. keep writing, girl.

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  75. Blessed by your honesty. Praise the Lord.

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  76. Blogging said as a cuss word... Love it! Hugs.

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  77. AMEN, SISTER.

    i'm so glad this isn't a fluffy blog! and, thank YOU. seriously! thank YOU for shoving the man upstairs in my face all the time. because of YOU, i'm getting closer to HIM.

    my fan is waving like crazy!!!

    xoxoxo

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  78. Jamie- the reason I follow your blog is because you speak the truth unashamedly. I love that you reveal the nasty side of life (the side everyone else tries to hide) and show how redemption truly looks and works. Please keep it coming!

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  79. thank you listening to God and sharing your story of hope, truth and reality. i've recently started reading your blog and healing is beginning as i am now able to see the 'other side' where hope lies!
    thanks you for using His words thru you! blessings!

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  80. Praise God for your story and how he uses it. Posting this to my facebook!

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  81. you are one of the bravest, realest, people that i wish i was blessed to know. well, i kinda do, through your blog. praise HIM! thank you! :)

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  82. It's a powerful testimony of how your marriage survived after an affair. It's rare and so even more important for people to see that with God, it is possible. I think your blog is great, don't change a thing.

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  83. It's a powerful testimony of how your marriage survived after an affair. It's rare and so even more important for people to see that with God, it is possible. I think your blog is great, don't change a thing. :)

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  84. You are amazing...
    I want to sit across a table with a cup of coffee & chat with you..
    Thanks for allowing God to use you this way...

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  85. thank you. i LOVE your honesty. it is shocking. but it is truthful and full of the hope of the Gospel. it is challenging. it is encouraging. and i LOVE your blog. may God keep giving you truth as He uses you.

    p.s. i also think you're really funny. i like to read your posts aloud to my hubby. :) the "my dad rode a teenage boy down the stairs" post was probably my favorite ever.

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  86. his strength is made perfect in our weakness! Keep on preachin' it!!!! I'm staying in the kitchen with ya!.

    Jillain

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  87. saturday's blog post was written because of THIS post that YOU wrote. thank you for giving me a "boost" like that.

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  88. Just wanted to say I love your blog because you are honest and real. May God be glorified. Thanks for laying it all out there!
    Beth

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  89. love your truth girl. keep on keepin' on. :)

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  90. thank you for being truthful & speaking TRUTH into others lives, into my life, through your blog.

    i was feeling down yesterday & talking to a good friend & she said i think you should ask God this week to tell you who you are & who He thinks you are...i didn't think much about it, but then i read this & now i am praying that God speaks to me about who i am in Him. i pray the same thing for you this week. not that it would be a whisper, but clearly & loudly & repeatedly who you are in Him.

    praise Him.

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  91. write on, my friend.

    you totally rock.

    xx

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  92. Love it!!

    And that's why I love this blog..

    All I can say is..
    You.Go.Girl.!!

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  93. dear jami and nato,
    I admire you in a big way, you are courageous. admitting your sin and sharing your story is admirable.
    thank you so much!
    tara

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  94. preach on. i appreciate your candidness, honesty, heart. i don't comment too often because i usually have a rugrat or two on my heels, but i love keeping up with you. you're funny and real, so thanks!

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  95. i wrote about something very similar today on my blog and when my sis read it she told me to check out your blog. love it! my sentiments exactly!!! not enough "real" people in the world. i'm trying to be real, but let's be real, only God knows the real me. =)

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  96. boom boom to the boom boom POW. so few get this. (so many people were like, "why would you share what you shared in your marriage series, what does your husband think, does he know?" Ah ya he knows, he lived it.

    maybe you and I have speaking engagements together in our future, because again, so few get this, all of it, it's a rare gift ........

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  97. I love reading your blog because of how open and honest you are. It's such a breath of fresh air. xoxo

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  98. i know you say you ain't...
    but you and nato ARE awesome!
    you are b/c of Him.
    and you are b/c you speak boldly!
    your honesty inspires me... gives me courage.
    thanks jame!
    xoxo

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  99. So inspiring--it is this honesty that I love and why i love reading your blog.

    It shows something good can come oout of even the darkest times.

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  100. praise JESUS.
    i have a ton to say, but will spare your comment box...but know this:
    you bless my socks off, the spirit moves through your story, keep.on.sharing.

    loveya.

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  101. Wow, there is not much to say after all these comments. They've said it all!

    I am very tired of fluff, thus I read your blog. My pastor spoke a very non-fluffy, truthful, and uncomfortable sermon on Easter. It was awesome.
    I want to speak truth, and to read it. Thank you for being you! I don't know you, but I love you. You are real, and real funny too.


    "Comedy is simply a funny way of being serious." ~Peter Ustinov

    Never stop writing!

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  102. Too preachy? Never! I love you and I don't even know you. Thank you for this.

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  103. This honesty is what we all need. I'm so exhausted by the facade that we live under in the church. Church has to be the place where we can say "I'm not awesome" and still be accepted. I think it's awesome that you share your story of redemption!

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  104. Thank you SO much for sharing your story. I can't tell you how many people I have shared your blog with because I am so encouraged about how God has restord your marriage. And, I love how you continue to pursue Him in your lives. Keep sharing what God is doing. This is just what I needed to hear today.

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  105. YES! I love this. You are doing what you believe God has called you to...even after the mostly well meaning people who probably love you (well at least some of them) call you into doubt. That questioning is good but the fact that in the end you choose to be honest and your honest is all about Jesus! Yes - imagine what the church would be like if when you got really deep in us all it was unashamedly and always Jesus as the only good to be boasting about. I'm praying that you always remember with laser like focus that you live and blog and choose what you do for Him...b/c that always encourages me to keep on keeping on too and I for one am so thankful for you!!

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  106. Preach. On. Period. You are amazing!

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  107. I just found your blog through another one, I am amzed at how honest you are. This is very encouraging to me.

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  108. i love that your blog is not fluffy!! thank you! (and can i just say that when i read your blog, i find myself either laughing out loud :) or nodding my head in fervent agreement)

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  109. I'm late catching up on this, but I had to comment and let you know how incredible I think your story is. And your boldness to tell it is even more so. You are inspiring. God is good. So glad we're Anthro/social media friends, and I can't wait to be real life (crafty/maybe church?) friends soon.

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  110. I found your blog through another blog a read that you guest blogged on. Personally after reading that guest blog you wrote I was inspired to read more about your story and the affair. Currently me and my ex have been going through difficult times after his addiction to alcohol. I've been asking myself some of the same questions you have mentioned in some of your posts and I've been trying to find a way to forgive and move on so maybe we can continue a happy relationship together for us and for our son. No matter what anyone says you should keep talking about your story not only for yourself but others as well. It is very helpful to read your post and how your family dealt with a significant hardship like you did. You could save marriages! I love your posts, please keep sharing, your words are inspiring. Thank you to you and your husband for sharing your story.

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  111. just started reading along lately, and here is another post i love. i hope you are still feeling encouraged to do just what you said you will in this post. i often find it interesting how a lot of people talk about wanting to see others live more genuine and open lives and how they feel closer to them when they do.. but then you get wide-eyed looks and judgement when you walk as one of those open and honest people. it takes so SO much courage to let all of this out, and i admire that in you and your hub. i know the Lord is using it.

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