Monday, April 4, 2011

a note from nato. forced. kind of.

nato takes a lot of flack on this blog. like, he's kind of the bad guy sometimes. and i don't want ya'll to think of him that way. because he's actually freaking awesome.
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point is, you get my side of the story a lot of times. i mean, well... every time, let's be honest. and i think you need to hear his side of the story. he does not ask to write on this blog...ha, he's all  that's your thing, babe.
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anyway, he approves each post i write that pertains to him. and by that i mean i let him read it first and then  he never changes anything. he always says he wants me to write what i need to write. but i know that it can't be easy for him.
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becuase, yikes. i don't sugar-coat things. anyone can read this blog and find out more than they ever wanted to know about us. his mother reads this blog. maybe some co-workers. and of course friends. oh, and strangers. yes, lots of strangers.
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so here's my idea: you guys surely want to know things about this mysterious man behind the blogger, right? so are there any questions you have for him? thoughtful or not, you should ask. brutally honest, or just what is your favorite beanie baby?  i'll let him pick the questions he wants to answer and he'll post next week or something. that'll give him all sorts of time to come up with brilliant/honest responses.
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and i shall call this "a note from nato". uhh-mazing, right?

and ya, i know this post and pictures don't correlate so much. they basically show how awesome nato is as a dad. and how he changes the oil in our cars instead of taking them in. and how cute and brown he is. that's the point i was trying to convey here. go with it.

p.s. i've been nesting and getting the rooms together for the kiddos...so i'll post that soon.

51 comments:

  1. Cutest pics of your boys!! looking forward to hearing from Nato. Also interested in the kinds of questions people ask....

    I am gonna go with: "Do (both) have thoughts on sharing your story with your kids one day? As a testimony? or would you rather not share? I feel like you are open and honest people that like to share what you have grown through---but wondered how you felt when it comes to talking to the kids later in life."

    Once again, love this blog. Thanks for being the real deal and thanks Nato for approving the honest posts :)

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  2. i haven't been a reader of yours for very long but think you have the most darling of families and am blessed by your transparency. it is in our weaknesses and brokenness that the Lord makes us utmost strong (that is nothing new).
    all of us have made crummy choices and they are all the same in God's eyes. since we're all children of the same Creator it makes sense that we would build up, not tear down. i hope that's what people respectfully do when they ask nato questions.
    ohhhh, i haven't even asked a question yet. what is nato's ethnic/cultural/racial background. he DOES have a nice skin color. :-)
    can't wait to see the results of your nesting.
    loves!

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  3. this is such a great idea. when i first started reading your blog i thought, honestly, how crazy it was that you are openly writing about infidelity and your husband doesnt care. that is amazing. what a great guy. i totally loled at the part about him being brown. ha. can i ask two questions? is that being greedy?
    1. Where you relieved when your wife found out about your affair? So you didnt have to hide anymore?
    2. How do you feel about your wife blogging about your personal experiences?
    also note: Jami, your little guy will be quite the handy man

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  4. well since i think mr. Nato can agree with me that beanie babies are lame...:)i shall ask him what his favorite gaga song is...no? ok, how about if you and the mrs. had a perfect theme song to your life what would it be? corny...yes?:)

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  5. I don't know you, so I'm a stranger fo sho, but I've been following you for a bit now, and I get really excited every time there is a new post. I can relate to a lot of your experiences, and you make me laugh, and you don't wallow much. I like all of those things.

    I don't have any questions for Nato (although I do envy his brown-ness. I have a brown husband myself. So jealous.) You just popped right up on my feed and i was all, "Yay!".

    That's it!

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  6. so my computer homepage is set to the BBC. and NATO is constantly splashed all over the front page. i kid you not every single time i see it i think of your husband authorizing bombs and calling for peace talks etc. so i guess in my head he is way more important than he ever could be in real life. ;) but my question will be... what's youor favorite thing about your incredible wife??? :)and maybe NATO's take on the situation in libya. ;)

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  7. you're brave, baby. i have now started running my posts pertaining to my hubs by the approval board first. trial and error made me learn...well, really, error. and two fights i caused. oops.

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  8. i have never judged him. we have all done things that we are not proud of. a great man can read such things and own up to it. great idea, cuz im one of those strangers reading your blog:) love the pictures! there is nothing sweeter then watching them learn from daddy.

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  9. first name nato...last name nato? either your parents are weirdos or you have a first name. i mean, why does your wife even call you nato?

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  10. Nato. You are honest. That's good.

    Also, when I live in Kansas City, should I just drop my car by your house? You can I have some lemonade, I'll hold the baby, and he can change the oil in my car. Isn't that why you wrote this post?

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  11. My husband tells me he loves my blog. ahahahah I'm still not sure if he is serious.

    Does Nato LOVE your blog?

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  12. I have previously stated I would like to hear Nato's side of the story. People are usually so quick to say to the cheatee "Oh you poor thing, that Jerk/Beyotch" with out asking what the cheater what they were thinking or how they are feeling about the whole situation. Not to discount anyones feelings but there are 2 sides to every story. I know Nato feels horrible about it all and loves your family deeply otherwise he would have not come back. So I would like to hear more on his story (it doesn't have to be super detailed) and how does he handle it all day to day? Please :O)

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  13. What a great idea! I love that he lets you do your thaaang! And I love that he changes the oil ;)

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  14. The fact that he never criticizes what you write says a LOT about what kind of guy he his. I? I did not marry that type.

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  15. I always like it when guys take a moment to remember and reflect on what makes their wives so special. SOOOO Nato - What do you love most about your wife and why? :)

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  16. My hubby changes my oil too, and I love him for it! I am most definitely a stranger, and came over to your page from Emily's. You crack me up, and I truely admire your honesty. BOTH of you. That takes mighty strength that can only have come from the Good Lord.

    Question: How different is your relationship now from when the infidelity was occurring? What do you do differently for/in your marriage to keep it strong?

    Thanks! Christina from CA

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  17. seriously, you're both awesome. love you guys a lot.

    i want to know what he really thinks when he comes home and finds you in a belly shirt making a preggo workout video. :) ha ha.

    but really, i want to know what part of fatherhood is the most joyful for him. because i see how your kids just love their dad.

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  18. hypothetically speaking....if someone were to jump off the top of a moving van, what would be the best way to do it without hurting themself?

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  19. I SO enjoy the honesty here. It is real. I love it.
    I am a stranger and I have never thought to judge nato or ever think he's the bad guy. We all make mistakes and God is so good in redeeming those mistakes to something beautiful and new.
    What is some advice you could give to newlyweds?

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  20. Love that Nato is willing to answer some questions. Like so many readers, I think we all have an understanding of your incredible husband and the changes that he has made, and you have made as a couple. You lift him up so often - I think we know how great he is and you're right - he's a cutie pa-tooty!

    So, no question for Nato...just thankful that you can be so open on your blog. You touch many lives with your words! :)

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  21. LOVE your love for your hubby! Also, how do you get your blog to display "You might also like:" blog references at the bottom?

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  22. how can my husband be as brown as you?

    is it a fake tanner spray that you use?

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  23. i am for sure a stranger. found your blog through another blog, but swear if we met we'd be bff's! love your story, think it is stories like yours that show the true heart of Christ. the forgiveness, the redemption, the restored relationship. what i would like to know, is what advice you would give to other couples to help prevent an affair. and not just for the husband, but what should both the husband and wife be doing to make sure it doesn't happen? thanks for being so open and honest. i am sure that you will never know the number of lives you have affected!

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  24. I have a lot of the same questions as above, so I'll just say, "I can't wait to hear your reponse Mr Nato!"

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  25. Does Nato like to dance? On that same note, would Nato ever go on a local Dancing with the Stars kind of show?

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  26. Having had an affair myself, how did you move past that? I.E. Did you just cut off all communication with the other woman? How did that work for you?

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  27. great idea chick--and i am excited to see your nesting{ness} hmmmmmm....what do you admire most about your fab wifey??

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  28. Love the manly photo shoot today! ;) I can't think of a question for Nato right now (if I do I'll come back) I just want him to know how courageous he is for manning up and coming BACK, for letting you talk openly about this season of life, and most importantly for repenting and letting God draw him back under His wing. Nato, you are awesome. However, I DO like Audrey's question... If I started calling my husband "Hatfield" that would just be weird. ;)

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  29. emily, your husband is as brown as mine...in the summer.

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  30. He might have to start his own blog if this gets going :).

    This is more of a question for both of you.

    I just want to know what your extended family thinks of this openness to share your life (the good, the bad and the ugly) with us. How did Nato feel about everything being so public?

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  31. love this idea. it's fabulous. and i don't think he's a bad guy at all. i think your story is one of redemption and forgiveness.

    i'm curious to hear his testimony.

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  32. I love the pictures Jami!
    Oh and questions for Nato..hmmm
    How about is there a house for sale in your neighborhood? like right next store to yours? Because I think your wife is the greatest and want to be real life BFF's with her!
    and how about...
    what is different now then before in regards to you and what/how you think?
    When Jami is having a ruff day...what is something you know will always fix it?
    thanks for sharing...I totally love your family and love your love for the Lord!

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  33. I'm a total stranger, but have been enjoying your blog for several months. The honesty is refreshing!

    Anyway, it's such a blessing that Jami gets to be a stay-at-home mom, and I wonder what you do for a living to be able to make that possible for your family?

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  34. I am new to your blog and love your open-ness. Having seen friends go through similar experiences, it is refreshing to see such honesty. So rare. I love the raw details, and I'd also like to hear his side...thoughts of your relationship before, during, and after the infidelity. In most cases, people say, "what were you thinking" and one never usually gets a real answer from that. Curious. I applaud you applying the Saviors love and atonement in your lives and your marriage.

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  35. I love your blog. Your honesty and authenticity is so refreshing. Yours is one of those blogs that I check even when I know my kid is in the bathroom at the time unrolling all the toilet paper. Thanks to you and your husband for your willingness to be so open. Looking forward to Nato's post!

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  36. Jami talks so much about your infidelity. How do you both move past it if it's always being brought up? Do you think they'll ever be a time when it's not brought up, in real life or on this blog? I know it's important to be real, but, going through the same thing myself, I always wonder, "Will there ever be a time when it won't be so consuming? When I won't think about it everyday and discuss it every week? Is it necessary to stop talking about it in order to heal?

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  37. Great idea!!!! Where to start??!! I know that talking about the affair and being open helps Jami but does it really help you?? Does it hurt you and bring up hard/resentful feelings? And your family and friends? How do they feel? It's obvious you're a great guy who made a horrible mistake. Do you feel you can really get past this when it is so public all the time? And, how often do you change the oil??
    btdub....great blog and beautiful family.

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  38. i'd like to to know if nato is doing enough to help libya. I mean, it's all CNN can talk about, is whether nato is doing enough to help libya. and i'd just like to ask him that to his face.

    huh, nato? why you ignoring libya and stuff?

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  39. Those pictures are sweet! So, my question for Mr. Nato is "What was the first thought that ran through your head when you saw the future Mrs. Nato?" :)

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  40. love this idea. i don't really have any "questions for nato" but if i do, i'll just tell me hubby to ask them :) and i realize i spelt your name wrong in my reply this morning. it's not because i don't love you, but because i was driving and typing and distracted!

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  41. Love this idea.

    Nato, what do you think of your wife's crafternoons? Sometimes I think I am the epitomy of an at-home mom when my husband comes home to hot glue and fabric scraps.

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  42. heyyyyyy guys.

    how is your relationship with your in-laws and how did you move past the affair with them? or did you?

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  43. ok seriosly, these pictures of layne are great. i bet that kid is crazy! he always looks so animated. maybe he could have a heart-to-heart with my boy and tell him to smile and act lively every once in a while?

    question for nato...

    first of all, thank you for allowing your wife to be so honest and raw. it honestly changed my life! so, thank you!
    aaaandd....do you plan to share your story with your children? if so, what does that look like?

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  44. Hi Jami! Hi Nato!

    First, I know you hear it all the time but your family is just precious!

    Second, what an amazing thing you two are doing in every aspect of your lives.

    Third, I can't wait to hear from Nato!

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  45. Well, I am so impressed by that Nato man of yours!! I haven't had the nerve to tell my fam that I am blogging! Although with the new job, I've been quite the slacker.
    Anywho... on to questions for Nato.
    1) Nato, is it remotely possible that we could talk the elder Natos (your parents) into coming to the wedding even if you don't get to??
    2)I love how God is continually making your marriage stronger and better, it can't be easy to live life on the INTERNETS for everyone to see. Are you sure you're ok with the blog?
    3)Do you know how much we freakin love you? I think not...

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  46. just wanted to support you guys in sharing God's redeeming love in your life. praying for you.

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  47. Don't really have a question. Just want to say that Mr. Nato is pretyt dang cool for letting you tell the whole story. It must be hard sometimes.
    OK, I do have a question. What was your response, Mr. Nato, when she said she wanted to blog about it all?
    Love this blog and the way it shows God's redemption.
    Love from,
    Greta

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  48. boxers or briefs?

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  49. I am a first timer here. So, I have no questions. But, I got the point of the photo shoot, without you explaining. It was clear. Clearly awesome & brown.

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  50. Do you feel you are more at risk for having another affair?

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  51. Yours is the first blog that I have ever encountered that really shows their marriage warts and all. I'm amazed at your level of transparency and honesty about the struggles. You're not just like "SEE? We're real! We have a pile of dirty laundry on the couch!". You actually aired that dirty laundry. Refreshing. And oh so real. Thank you for changing the blogosphere.

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