Wednesday, March 30, 2011

those kinds of friendships.

we took layne and one of his best buds to crown center the other day to see the LIFE SIZE lightening mcqueen and mater from cars. i mean, it was super nutty, one of those events you surely would have skipped had you know every boy in the state was going to attend. i mean, what? did i just say that?
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now david is the son of some of our good friends. but let me explain what kind of
  good friends
i'm talking about. when i found out my husband was having an affair, david's daddy, matthew (and some other awesome men) were at my house within hours. looking for my husband. waiting for him to come home. wanting to punch him in the face.

those next couple of days and weeks were rough for me. my besties live out of state and although my family is in town, david's mommy, lindsay happened to be right there. literally. she was right there all the time. i'm not sure how it happened actually, but it did. and so, she was my confidant and advice giver. my talk-me-down-from-the ledge friend. the person i called at 2 in the morning... tell me i'm going to be ok. and she told me i would, in her middle of the night voice. like a piece of Jesus with some skin on him.  i was totally a taker. there was no giving in that time of friendship...i knew it and i was annoyed with myself. but i had come to terms with it. and i know that i wore lindsay out. i know it. but she(and a few other close friends) trudged through it with me. to say i was and am grateful for this is an understatement here.
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so, matthew and that crew of guys chased nato down, in a literal and figurative sense, for the next couple of weeks and months. matthew steadfastly loved my husband in some very unloveable moments. he came over and played with layne a couple times when nato and i were separated(for a short time) because layne needed some daddy time...even if it wasn't his daddy. he always gave layne extra attention when he saw him at church. i will never forget those little moments glancing over at layne and matthew playing in the church foyer. those moments when the noisy church suddenly gets quiet and you just see a little glimpse of Jesus.
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and so, yes, our boys happen to be the same age. and they happen to love one another. but really, when i watch them i think about the roots they are putting down in one another's lives. and how they don't realize that those roots go much deeper than their friendship. i hope that one day those boys will understand the depth of true friendship with one another. i hope they pursue one another when either of them is unlovable. i hope they stand by each other in the hard moments.

after all, they have a legacy to live up to.

here is a 1 minute video of them playing together at the cars exhibit. they are too hilarious. (turn down the music on bottom of my blog).

Untitled from jami nato on Vimeo.

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and yes, sweet lila was there too...
(in case you were wondering, her words are amazing lately. she's saying UH-OH! and allllllll done. and today she busted out the word "cracker". i forgot how quickly their language explodes when they get going. we're so proud of her.)

40 comments:

  1. I know you know but mankind, you are blessed. So nice that you have those kinds of friendships in your life.

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  2. I pretty much want to eat those boys. Is that weird?

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  3. I LOVE the first photo. The look on Layne's face is so superstar! God is so good to give us friends who are there when we most need them... When we are loosing our minds, when we are unloveable, when we need need need and have nothing to give in return, when we need Jesus in the flesh for that tangible touch. You are very blessed :) and yea for Lila! She's going to be yapping your ear off any day! Sorry I've not visited you like I warned and threatened that I would, I promised to bug you soon!
    Love you,
    Jenn

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  4. those types of friendships are so rare and so wonderful. each time i read your blog i end up crying!!! you have such a gift for writing. thanks for inspiring me to capture the moments in my family's life and helping me keep it real! love your blog!

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  5. soo thankful for friends that are really there when things get ugly and pray/support/and love on you throughout it until the pretty comes back.

    ahhh, the goodness of boys! precious happy robots.
    (also LOVE Blue Merle song...all of the lyrics on that album are amazing).

    and finally, loving lila's words. super awesome.

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  6. I keep forgetting you live in KC! I live in Springfield and my bro's family lives in KC. They didn't face the crowd, much to the dismay of my 2 year old nephew, I'm sure.

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  7. thankful for that family and thankful for you!

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  8. you are certainly blessed to have such good friends! XO

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  9. this made me tear up a little.

    and GO LILA!!!! exciting.

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  10. um. declaring it right now, best post i have read all year. something about it made my heart all warm and fuzzy {even with that 4 letter word affair, i know it is really 6 but who is counting} Friendships like that are pretty much the most amazing things ever. Thanks for the warm fuzzies this morning, needed it on such a RAINY day....


    xoxoxo

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  11. How precious to have friends like them. The ones who dont run away when life gets ugly. Really hard. But are willing to walk through it WITH YOU. God Bless them.
    And Im so excited to hear about your daughter! PTL!
    XO,
    Sarah

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  12. What a great post! It gave me the goose bumps...how amazing!

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  13. 1. Their karate moves reminds me of the day i saw 2 little boys practicing outside a nail salon one day.
    2. I say the same exact phrase in the exact same voice as David pretending to be a robot with my daughter "I am a robot"

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  14. I'm so excited for besties for my babies!

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  15. There are friends...and then there are the friends you do life with. I loved this post.
    I love that your girl is talking! YAY!
    And I love that you're from KC! I had no idea...my hubby and I are too...we've been in IA 8 years now, but come back tons to see all our family who live there!

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  16. So many times your posts leave me not knowing exactly what to say because you've already said it so perfectly. This is one of those times.

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  17. What a beautiful picture of the Gospel... I love it. Thanks for sharing!

    And puhleeez tell me that Lila meant "cracker" as in "OMG, you are such a cracker." Because that would be uh-mazing.

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  18. that first picture is amazing! love it.

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  19. It was an honor to walk alongside you both. You all literally put skin on the message of the gospel for me, forever changing my life and my relationship with the Lord. Thank you for boldly allowing people like me on the inside because through your sacrifice, the Lord is teaching, molding and transforming A LOT of people.

    As for our boys...praying alongside you that they would be iron in each others' lives. I love you and your whole family.

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  20. found your blog via a friend's blog.
    Thanks for sharing your heart and being a real person. You are so blessed to have those kind of men to love your husband and your family.

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  21. Friends in adversity are the special ones. I'm glad you had them in your life.

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  22. What a great post! I think true friendship is one of the greatest gifts God has given us. Love it.

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  23. LOVE this friendship story!!! thanks for sharing your heart:)

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  24. My kids would go NUTS for those life-size cars. Seriously. So happy you have such wonderful friends!

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  25. I just found your blog and love! Love what your blog comment/ stalker post. I have fretted all day about hits on my blog without comments are followings...starting to get a complex. Hee!

    http://amomseyeview-lulu.blogspot.com

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  26. I love this post. I have never experienced Jesus in the flesh like I have this past week. Its so amazing and absolutely humbling to watch Him work through His followers. Through people like YOU. We know women need these bonds but often act like men don't. These boys WILL need each other someday, and knowing their history together will solidify the depth of their relationship.
    I hope our boys can spend more time together since Jaymin needs a "brown" friend. ;) Seriously, the boy is way too sheltered and needs some diversity in his life. ;) And then you can spend some time with your "angel baby" too, you know the child that is completely lacking in any form of melanin. ;)
    Thanks again for Wednesday. :)

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  27. jami...seriously. this post (just like every other post about you guys' marriage) totally hit home... all i can say is i completely get it and thank you for writing it.

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  28. i love that you went from showing your hippie side (with the soap post) to sharing your heart. i love you and your story. jesus shines through your writing. love it! keep it comin'!

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  29. that first pic of layne is SUCH a Jami face!!!! love it.

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  30. so excited little Lila is chatting up a storm! And so very thankful for the glimpses Jesus gives us of himself! You're so blessed with such great friends!

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  31. awesome post as always--true friendship is so priceless! and i freakin love these picts of your kiddos~ happy fri lady!

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  32. i wish you lived closer to me so i could higher you to take some pics.

    p.s. you're a good writer.

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  33. I love that top picture. They are totally grooooooving....

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  34. Great video of them just having fun :). Good times for them to look back on.

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  35. Oh Jami, I love how you let us in your world and share with us the real moments of your life. I thank you for that. i thank you for being such a Godly woman. You are so inspiring.
    The pics of the boys are so cute. I love the ninja moves.
    and Sweet Lila. I am so excited to now she is saying so many words. That is awesome!

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  36. pieces of jesus, middle of the night talking friends that can handle the "taking" are the best friends on the planet. do i make any sense? i'm dieting. and completely delirious. you'll have to forgive me.

    and so happy that lila is yapping :)

    <3

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  37. i love this post.

    i love accountability in friendships like that

    and i love layne's face & pose in the first picture!

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  38. This post made me cry.
    And it's not just the 7 months of pregnancy hormones talking.
    I have a friend like that. She is actually my mom's best friend and she is my 2nd mother. I love her more deeply than I could ever explain,
    She has been with me for the births of all 3 of my babies and never failed to check in on me after my miscarriage. In my darkest hours, she has been there.
    Just thinking about it all makes me cry some more. I gotta get off your blog before I totally fall apart.
    Even though I love it.
    Love from,
    Greta

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  39. wow, that story brought tears to my eyes. You have a wonderful way with words. Good friends are so important in times like these. So many people on the outside don't understand, but friends just love. Thank you for sharing;)

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