Friday, June 18, 2010

he likes to spoon.

it's not a normal father's day around here...considering the mess we've been through. i'm candid about "the mess" on this blog and in my life--my husband is too. we feel like if you want to know us, you need to know that we've been through an affair and made it out on the other side. by the grace of God and the skin of our teeth.

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there was a short and uncomfortable time when i was a single mom. when i put the kids to bed. when(at age 2) layne told me he didn't have a daddy and i reassured him that he really did. even though i wasn't positive of it.

there was a short time when i made dinner for one and desperately wanted to make dinner for 2. when i dragged the trash out to the end of the driveway and wondered if anyone noticed i was doing it, not him. everything i did by myself was a slap in the face reminding me that i was alone.

but having almost lost something valuable makes a person extremely grateful for what's been returned back to them.


my husband came back. in a lot of ways. i am grateful that he loves Jesus and that he loves me. that he worked hard to show me he was in this marriage. and that he loves his kids. and that he even wants more babies with me.

there was a time i swore i'd never have anymore babies.

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i love that he cleans the kitchen(a lot). that he does the laundry. and he puts gas in my car when it's getting low.

i hate putting gas in the car.

he prays with the kids. he prays with me. he holds my hand. he only wants to hold my hand. he rubs my feet every night and he likes spooning, which i can only handle for 1 minute. but i think it's sweet. and i remember laying in my bed alone wishing he was spooning me even though it totally annoys me. funny what becomes un-annoying.

he is such a hard worker. he is good at his job. and i get to stay at home with the kids. there was a time when i thought i'd have to give up that dream.

and i love that he doesn't need "alone time" when he comes home from work. he works all day and then will mow the lawn and pick up the house if it's been a hard day for me. and it usually has been. because it's always messy over here.

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also, he is a host deluxe. if you've been to our house, you know. he's kind of out of control. but it's contagious. he's made me a better hostess... and more than that, a better person. there are lots of things i would have never learned unless he was in my life. i love that.

i love that i would be at a loss if i didn't have him.

enough mushing and gushing. i hope to hear about why you all love your man. brag it up.

18 comments:

  1. This is so sweet :) Love the pics of you guys. I will be bragging on my own blog soon and Jose is sitting right here which makes me feel funny writing about him (he's all don't say that...why are you putting that...weirdo) so you will just have to read what I write in the verynearhopefullybeforefathersdayisover future ;)

    speaking of pictures of you I have some for you :p you may or may not be happy to see them (I will give them to you when I am invading your life in 8 WEEKS! :-D

    and now I'm done because I basically left the longest comment I have ever left in my life right now

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  2. You guys are so cute. I can hardly stand it. I've got a father's day post in the works as well.

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  3. oh geesh, i love the natos.

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  4. Great pics friend. I love how open and honest you are!. And I agree - he is a great host.

    Happy Fathers day to nato nato.

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  5. jami you are so cute! I often like to think that if you and I lived closer, we might just be BFFs even though I have only met you once. :) Mark is very blessed to have you in his life! And I wish so much that I might be able to brag about my husband...but have no energy too. That may or may not be b/c I too am preggo. ready or not...baby #3 is coming.

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  6. You guys are just plain fabulous.

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  7. I'm glad I am not the only one who is not a fan of spooning. It's just not all it's cracked up to be.

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  8. LOVE, LOVE, LOVE. I'm in town for 1.5 more days. Call me if you have some contsipation/nausea-free moments. Or I can sit in the dining room and you can talk to me while you're in the bathroom like Nato does. :)

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  9. What a sweet post honoring your husband and your marriage!

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  10. Beautiful! With god all things are possible. :)

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  11. You guys are so cute and I love these photos. We spent Father's Day at Jeff's triathlon in 90 degree Arkansas. Go me. :)
    P.S.
    Nato is totally photogenic - love it!

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  12. I LOVE happy endings--this was so awesome to read.
    And you are so darn cute together.
    I love my husband because a) he's a good provider b) he's pretty funny c) he loves his family and d) he listens to me

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  13. this is so neat. your candidness is admirable, and an inspiration to others who have been hurt in one way or another. so happy to hear that you are happy in love again, and that he is such a participant in your marriage, and your lovely life together!

    i am spoiled by my (new-ish) husband, who dotes on me in all of the ways i never understood i deserved. funny how God gives us exactly what we need, and i've always needed him (well, and Him).

    i'm also sorry to hear about the loss of your peanut. He only gives us what we can handle, right?

    p.s. i went to high school with your hubs! and i found you through laura (or i prefer l.jeezy). what a web we weave! :)

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  14. This made me very much appreciate my husband and that Christ is for real in his life.

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  15. Love the mush & gush...bring it on!

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  16. Jami!!!!!!! My long lost favorite Kanakuk Co counselor ever!!!! :) I was looking at this girls blog (the anderson's) and there you were.... CRAZY I don't know her but she has a beautiful family!!! and Love reading her blog.... Crazier still.... I was in KC this weekend and got to see Kylie Brewer (Scovell) and I asked about you. She told me a little of your story and how you and her got to talk on the phone... I read a few of your blogs you are an incredible writing!!! I especially love this post!! My husband likes to spoon too :) only I love it too :) What a fun blast from the past!!! I will never forget how much I laughed that month at camp (your most miserable summer as I recall) as you tried to get safety tickets and broke every camp rule you could :) Shhhhhh :) Hope you are doing great!
    ashluster@blogspot.com

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  17. This is beautiful, you're honesty and openness is inspiring. I'm glad I took a look at your blog since I've been stalking you on instagram. You're so witty, I wish we were friends!

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  18. Your honesty and openness and is truly inspiring. I'm glad I took a look at your blog since I've been stalking you on instagram. You're so witty, I wish we were friends!

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