you know when you're in target(the 8th time that week) and you hear shrieking children convulsing around in their cart, yelling i want goldfish! i want out of the cart! i don't like you! of course you go to the next isle to try and lessen the ridiculous screeching from those annoying children. man, that mom needs to spank her kids or something.
but then you look down. THOSE naughty children are in YOUR cart... and there is no escaping their wrath because you are out of toilet paper. and diapers. and you HAVE GOT to look in the one spot and see what the deals are.
or when your little girl gets in the fireplace, eats the soot, and then spreads it all around the living room? urg... you'll have to excuse the blurry pics, i was a touch angry and in a hurry to see what nastiness was in her mouth.
speaking of eating nastiness, i eat my words daily when it comes to parenting. before i had kids, i judged the mother's of the world daily. their children were throwing fits. their children were wearing ridiculous outfits. their children were eating crackers off the floor of the grocery store. their children were eating ashes out of a fireplace(ok, never that one). the list of what i would NEVER do was quite large. now those things happen to me, usually daily.
it's easy to forget the reason behind raising children when, as a mother, you do the same things over and over again...on little sleep...with lots to get done for the day. i read grace-based parenting by tim kimmel a long time ago when layne was going through his "demon possessed" stage right around 2. i have picked it up recently because i've needed a refresher course on being a gracious mother towards my children. i find myself very surprised at my 18 month old and almost 4-year-old's desire to be naughty daily. . oops, i mean hourly. a time out does the heart good, buddy.
so when i read this, it changed my paradigm a little.
the grace-based home assumes kids will struggle with sin and helps them to learn how to tap into God's power to help them get stronger...When their children do sin, grace-based parents don't get surprised. they expect it. they assume sin is an ongoing dilemma that their children must constantly contend with.
if God our heavenly Father is the perfect father, and the primary way that He deals with us as humans is through the power of His grace, it stands to reason that grace forms the best template for bringing out the best in our own children.
i need to do a better job of mirroring that kind of love to my children.
now where in this book is the section on soot clean-up?